Tales from the QoS VIP Lounge – Q&A #10

As hosted by: @bigblackbull76

Interview with: @DaphneD (QoS VIP #10)

Hometown: Netherlands, and somewhere close to you

Nationality: 100% Dutch PAWG

Status: Married horny hotwife

BigBlackBull76 (BBB76): Whats up there Party hardy BlacktoWhite sex loving people. Well we are finally back after a little hiatus. Life gets in the way they say especially when your all about living up the life of a Black Bull. There are alot of women and couples to keep happy out there. But of course we need to keep the loyal QoS VIP lounge members happy too and so by popular demand we have returned to bring you another fantastic interview.

Not only is this member the first QoS VIP for 2017 but she is also the BlacktoWhite employee of the month being a recent staff member who joined the team and has done a fabulous job coming on-board and helping to keep the site running smoothly.

Without much further ado, everyone please help me in welcoming @Mrs DaphneD to the QoS VIP lounge. All hail the new queen and BtW employee of the Month. Thanks for taking the time out of your busy schedule working being a hot wife and moderating the BtW site to have a little chat with the BigBlackBull QoS VIP Club host with the most gracious BBC to boast. A toast to you and the hubby and accept a complimentary bottle of Spades from the Good Ol’ club member and President BigBlackBull. We all definitely would love to know a little more about you so lets get right into this.

DaphneD (D-D): Wow. What can I say! I’m honored to be chosen for the Qos VIP lounge interview. Having read the other interviews I’m caught between being nervous and excited, as I am normally a little shy. Yes really LOL. But I would like to thank everyone for giving me this opportunity.

BBB76: Your more than welcome my dear. I’ve noticed your posts as well and enjoyed reading them hence why you’ve been welcomed to the BtW team and now this interview. So one question we usually start off with asking is at what age did you begin the lifestyle of having sex with Black men and what made you want to do it?

DD: I was a real late starter. My first BBC was a couple of years ago. A kind nice sexy virile young man of 27. Very sexy, and a real gentle and friendly young man who hubby found to break my BBC virginity so to speak. Although I am a shy kind of person I know how to make a guy feel good and wanted, and boy was he wanted lol. In all, it was a totally different but great time compared to my other lovers I have had.

What made me want to do it? To please my husband. To answer that fully I think I need to explain who I am a little bit. I’m a pleaser, I love making others feel good about themselves and myself along the way. It’s the same in sex. I will go to many lengths to please a guy. Some things I won’t do, (Which is a personal choice) but I will dress, sometimes I will be what they want me to be. That can be anything from being a slut to play acting to being just who I am. But I will do it so they and I get the greatest pleasure out of it. If that makes sense…LOL I feel myself rambling here.

BBB76: No rambling at all my dear as that was a great stream of conscious relaying your motivations and reasons for becoming a hot wife. I hear that response often in that the wife or girl friend starts off wanting to please their husbands and boyfriends but then after a while when they get used to the role they take on their own motivations and get into more about pleasing themselves and their new lovers (i.e. hung Stud or Black Bull).

So would you say your first experience with a Black man live up to your expectations?

DD: The first time was better than I imagined. Slow sitting on his hardness while he was on the couch blew my mind. It wasn’t a porn moment, but a sensual gentle acceptance of what was to be a very fulfilling and emotional experience. So, I would say it was a great experience. I love sex. I like to think I‘m good at it, but the feeling was out of this world. So different. The contrast between us was amazing something I loved seeing and would love to see more of. Which of course. Is why I am BlacktoWhite To be honest I/ we are in talks….( LOL Sounds like a corporation negotiation ) with someone here on Black to white.

I never imagined it would be that good. It was. and will be again. Just as soon as I find the next guy lol. I will say he enjoyed the oral sex a hell of a lot. So much so that he wanted it even after we had finished the sex olympics on the bed. He actually was the first guy I felt comfortable using my mouth as a pussy, and I even found out I could take three quarters of him in. Not bad for a small woman. Yes I’m only 5’5 lol

BBB76: Dam that story you just told was pretty hot and definitely turned me on. In fact you got me wanting to try that position now with fucking on the couch and having a hot riding me but that does make for a bit of a porn moment. Here is a good video I love of a women getting fucked well by a Bull on a couch that your description brings to mind.

So were you always attracted to Black men or did it develop later, and what were the things that made them attractive to you?

DD: I wasn’t attracted to black guys until hubby said he would love to see me with a black guy. When I was younger I dated a lot of ‘Indo’ guys, so being with someone who wasn’t white wasn’t any different than dating a white guy,. To me it’s all about the guy, not what color they are. (Indo is a term used to describe Eurasian people who were a migrant population that associated themselves with and experienced the colonial culture of the former Dutch East Indies, a Dutch colony in South East Asia that became Indonesia after the second world war It was used to describe people acknowledged to be of mixed Dutch and Indonesian descent). I’m a Dutch, Chinese, Indo, mix, I like contrast as well as the unexpected and difference in people, like Indo’s have. So stepping over to seeing a black guy who was attractive, funny and sexy as hell was easy lol.

What I found attractive was the contrast, the subtle differences in how our bodies move, the ways that are expressed during conversations as you find you are sexually and mentally attracted to the person as they are to me. I didn’t know what to expect. But I did get a sensual attractive and genuine young man who wanted fun and found I wanted the same which made for a great time. Am I seeking a new lover. Yes. Why?. Well again to please my partner and myself. I seek to include someone who enhances my relationship I seek someone who wants fun. Someone who wants to share, be cared for sexually and emotionally from the relationship we can build. Someone who accepts who we are as people and as sexual partners.

BBB76: That is a beautiful description of your attraction to Black men and how it enhances your sexual gratification. So how do you go about letting Black men know you are available?

DD: I don’t need too I think. Guys seem to know , as hubby says I have the presence of someone who screams come fuck me…I don’t see it. But I do see the reactions of guys when I am out and when paths are crossed and Black guys do seem to take a lot of notice of me when I do look. Hubby has said once I was a cock magnet. Maybe that’s why I like BBC now. My poles have been reversed

BBB76: Lol – a BBC magnet huh. Yeah some women just ooze sexuality by how they move, dress, and look and some men especially Black studs and Bulls are very adept to pick up on that. Once you give us a look of interest its on and we who have confidence just move right in for the kill like a wolf biting around the neck of their prey or a beta. So have you moved to exclusively fucking Black men now and when it comes to BBCs, at what size do you say it begins at and what is the optimal size for you?

DD: No I’m not exclusive to BBC. I’m not exclusive to my husband and partner concerning white either. Its just that he would like to see me with BBC more than with a white guy ( sorry white guys lol)

Size matters?. Yes. But so long as its the ‘right’ size. In my past I had a guy who was nearly eleven inches. I also had a lover who was five inches if that. Its all about how I feel with a guy, how he turns me on, Me him. Its about the complete package of the guy, who he is, how he is, ow the interactions are, how we connect. Can I take a coke can size elephant cock from a guy with a BBC…LOL Noo. Would I want more than five inches. Yes please. What I am trying to say is that a guy is more than his cock. That said I rarely refuse a guy with a larger cock. It just has to fit and feel good for both parties.

BBB76: Hmm I can understand that and I think a lot of men will like that answer about it being more about the guy than cock. Do you wear QoS jewelry, tats and do you wear them out in public? Would you get a permanent QoS Tat and if so where?

DD: No I don’t. I cannot wear or have a tattoo for a couple of reasons. One I cannot go into here , but I can say I’m not a huge fan of getting a tattoo due to my skin being super sensitive.

BBB76: Ahh I see. Well no worries as its about the life of a QoS and expressing it in actions not just body art or jewelry. I’d rather have a QoS who is truly about the life and no tat than one who only likes to dress up, put on temp tats take pictures and never really go out much less fuck any Black men in which I think some people are doing only for attention here on the net and this site.

DD: I only have BlacktoWhite as ‘the’ interracial site I visit. B2W is a easy going site catering to the needs and views of those in the lifestyle. Sure there are more active sites. But B2W has a friendly feel to it. Its pretty welcoming and is for the most hassle free.

BBB76: I love a person and especially a women who is loyal and dedicated. That is pretty much the same with myself as there are many other sites out there I did sign up on as well but found this one to be the easiest to navigate, find things of interest, find like minded people of interest, and have the most fun on so far. Everyone’ mileage may vary, but this site is like the Nurburgring GT and Grand Tourismo for me.

So would you say the overall experience with bringing a Black man into your relationship and sex life made it better or worse?

DD: Ohh boy. Hubby was like the energized bunny after I met with the BBC the first time. And when we talk the experience his batteries are recharged . Soo the relationship is strengthened and regenerated by it. Which is why we are seeking on Black to White another Lover to bring into the relationship.

BBB76: That is fantastic and I’m glad to hear that its made the sex even better. Things can get dull or stale in a relationship with the same person doing the same thing but anytime you can spice things up and especially with bringing a Super Strong and hung Black stud into the mix is a good thing. As a Black Bull I’ve received so many great compliments from husbands and boyfriends thanking me for pleasing their ladies and making them even more sexier and insatiable in the bed. This is another aspect that many women and couples dismiss on just how much brining a Black stud into the mix helps make the sex better in the bedroom and life overall.

So for the hot wife Mrs DD, what advice do you have for other women considering this lifestyle and how do you manage it with your husband/boyfriend?

DD: First of all take things slow. Get to know the person before you make the jump into anything. Despite what the movies and porn industry says, a guy is more than his cock. Sex can be just sex. But its more fun when you know at least something of the guy. It also builds trust. And in these times that counts for a lot. I use a verification process and rarely if ever deviate from it. its not perfect but its pretty damn near. Also discuss everything with your partner. If they are comfortable with it all then thats half the situation solved already After that, its all about meeting the guy and building what relationship you desire with them. Communicate. Consolidate. Facilitate as hubby would say…Penetrate as I’ve just been told could be added…LOL

Managing it is easy. I say he does. LOl. No we chat about things as much as is possible.. That’s the key to everything communication. Communication between prospective guys and ourselves. And between hubby and myself.

BBB76: What a fantastic answer and message. I appreciate you reminding people that a guy is more than a cock. I get turned off by the statements when a woman or couple says they are looking for a BBC. I’m like ok but it sounds like they are going to the pet store looking for a cocker spaniel or a car dealer looking for a Winnebago. And communication is key with all relationships as from experience I know when communication was lacking the relationship suffered tremendously but when it was flowing openly the relationship was outstanding. Much communication between the lady and her man in the relationship to be on the same page before moving out to venture in this life makes it work that much more successfully.

So now a question for Mr. DD. What advice would you give to other husbands and boyfriends considering this lifestyle and how do you manage it with your wifey/girlfriend?

Mr. DD: Discuss everything. Talk it through and set goals for what you want, allow and do not want. Put your lady first. What will make her feel safe and comfortable. Support her decisions in her choices of male, limits etc. Then decide together which of her choices match .Don’t rush things. It has to be fun for all parties. But if you (the male) feel uncomfortable with anything say something. Say why, and look for a solution together. Its supposed to be fun. It doesn’t make you a ‘cuckold’ by putting her first. It shows you care about her and her choices.

How do I manage it. By letting her do what she wants lol. No joking. By doing basically all of the above. I tend to put her safety and well being first. If she feels uncomfortable or worried then its not fun. Dialog between couples is important for a successful partnership and that extra fun you seek. Its that simple.

BBB76: Man you hit the target right on the ‘Bulls-eye’ again. Putting your lady first, ensuring you care to her needs, making her feel safe and comfortable – you summarized all of the main key components from that ‘How to’ guide I wrote for converting women into housewife and men into sucks. Without doing those things first and keeping the dialog open so no misunderstandings arise will almost ensure the partnerships doom and lead to one person being upset by the outcome.

Now for the couple to answer together, what do you look for in selecting a Black man to meet and play with or a Black Bull. Any Black men or BlackBulls you would like to name that you had fun with and what was fun about the experience with them?

Mrs. & Mr. DD: We look for guys who are a little younger than us. (last lover was 27 lol) but its more than just the age. Its about the guy. Is he friendly. Do they want friendship as part of the relationship. Are they fun?. Clean. Have the same interests. Do they like being watched, or being in a threesome with us as a couple. are they adaptable to meetings or situations. Then we consider the sex part of things.

We cannot mention his name. No he isn’t Voldemort . But he was real fun. Great sex, great time. And yes, a great cock. Gentle sensuous, giving. So a great first experience. Yes we want more silly… Duhh lol

BBB76: Not Voldemort huh well that’s a good thing. I thought I was going to have to round up the Black Bull Secret Order of the Phoenix and get my sexxxy brunette slut Hermione to get over to my place and load up for war. I think I’m going to call up that sexxxy slut Hermione anyway and let her practice casting some spells using my BigBlack magic stick later. This has definitely been another fun interview ant thanks for taking a little time to sit down with the Bull. Now lets go back out and play in the back of the VIP room again and meet the other ‘real’ and fun women, men, and couples of BtW too. 🙂

DD: I would like to give a big shout to BBB76 for the interview. I hope everyone enjoyed my ramblings and that they give someone the courage or support to try something new in their relationship. I tried and it worked out great. Maybe some one else will be so lucky. Thank you all. Thank you to every one who knows me.

~BBB76

Everyone make sure to check out @DaphneD ‘s fabulous IR sex media collection on BtW here: Lingerie (Some of my favourite things)

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